So I'm going to visit my girlfriend in Seattle. She has a 16 year old son and wants my advice being as my son is nearly 27. She is particularly interested in what to do about his relationship issues. My son became involved with his current girlfriend when he was only 17. So I'm glad I handled it OK from the beginning. Since it has turned out to be a long term situation.
What I did was let Ashley call all the shots. I figured that Steven would choose a life partner over me and I was right. My job was to accept his decision and to support the welfare of both parties. I just try to love them both and not interfere at all with any of their decisions. I don't always agree with them. But getting into an argument just means I see and hear less of both of them. Steven and Ashely are a team and their loyalty is to each other first.
This is what my friend does not understand. She still thinks her role as mother will trump any role her son's partner will play at this point and maybe it will for a while. But at some point it won't so I say get used to it now.
As for inquiring into your child's sexuality, Ashley taught my nieces and nephews to always say on principle that they're bi. This has worked really well in our family. It's magnificnet really to see the next generation unfold.
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